【Patang Paseena (2024) Hindi Web Series】

Make me.

This is Patang Paseena (2024) Hindi Web Seriesthe trademark saying for brats. A "brat" is a delightfully disobedient sub within the Dom/sub dynamic in BDSM. "Brats enjoy questioning dominance, as well as like for dominance to be proven to them," says Emerson Karsh, a kink educator.

Why would you want to be a brat during sex? Why wouldn'tyou? Being cheeky, disobedient, and naughty is fun. It creates a sense of playfulness that is often missing in sex. Being a brat is a very fun way to engage with your submissive side, without being a stereotypical sub. Brats are mouthy, badly behaved, and keen on punishment. 

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In BDSM, not all submissions look the same. Playing with power dynamics gets very creative in the kink world. "Brats get great enjoyment from playing [a game of] cat and mouse, defying authority, and in turn receiving a ‘punishment’ from their Brat Tamer," explains Julieta Chiaramonte, a kink instructor and sex expert. 

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If you’re turned on by disobedience, this might be something you want to explore. 

Let’s break down what it means to be a brat in BDSM, how you can approach it safely and consensually, and some tips to get you started on your merry way.

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What it means to be a 'brat.'

The brat is a very fun, quite cheeky submissive persona. It’s a submissive with a twist, Chiaramonte says.

A brat intentionally misbehaves in order to get a rise out of their Dom, often eliciting "punishments." The brat enjoys driving the Dom a bit mad with their naughtiness. It’s all centered around defying authority, which can be very hot. 

This all happens with enthusiastic consent. Everyone is on board.

The brat "may taunt, push boundaries, and really test their partners' limits in hope of causing a reaction," Chiaramonte explains. "This is very playful, and can be adjusted to your needs." This all happens with enthusiastic consent. Everyone is on board. We’ll get into the nitty gritty of consent a bit later.

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You might be asking how this is submission because, well, you’re being quite the brat. Karsh tells us that "brats express their submission in a way that is amusing, consensual, and done for a reaction." You’re not being obedient in the classic Dom/sub way, but the brat will submit when their Dom decides to punish them.

The Dom is the 'brat tamer.'

The brat tamer? You guessed it: This is the Dominant partner. They may choose to go by a different name (like sir, daddy, mommy, etc.), but the brat tamer is their styleof Domination. 

"Their 'role' is to put their brat in their place, remind them of the rules, and enforce punishments/order that they have created together," Chiaramonte explains. "This is an authority role, and a brat tamer must be comfortable with taking control and being taunted by their bratty partner."

Dr. Lee Phillips, a psychotherapist and certified sex and couples therapist, offers an example of the Brat/Brat Tamer dynamic in a scene: "In a role play, the sub (a brat) takes on the role of a subordinate to a moody boss. The ultimate goal is for the brat tamer to earn the brat’s respect because the brat enjoys pushing the brat tamer’s buttons by provoking them. In order to earn this respect, [the] Dom needs to tame or control the brat."

This role is anything but soft, Karsh says. "A brat tamer is not afraid to put their foot down," she says. 

This role takes a lot of skill and development. Karsh continues, "A brat tamer is skilled in giving their brat space to be a brat and figuring out how to express and prove their dominance to their brat in response to their bratting — whether that be a punishment, orders, ignoring the behavior, or something else."

Of course, all of this provoking and giving out punishments is 100 percent consensual in this dynamic.

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How brats 'act out' (and how they get punished).

There is no clear-cut way to fully express the breadth of punishments and behaviors that can go into the brat dynamic, but we can certainly distill a few common examples. 

Bratty dialogue. 

Brats use "bratty" language with the explicit intention of provoking their Dom. Some common phrases include: 

• Make me.

• That’s all?

• You can do better than that. 

• You can’t make me.

• Oh, yeah? What’s the worst that can happen?

• Prove it.

Additionally, Philips says "a brat may act out by talking back to them by calling their tamer names, turning down a command, have a temper tantrum, ignore the tamer to provoke them, and speak when they are supposed to remain quiet."

Bratty behavior.

Bratty behaviors run the gamut, but they're usually done in a lighthearted, naughty way, Karsh explains. For example, if a Dom told the brat to "Come over here right now." The brat might just sit down on the ground and refuse to move. Another example could be defying authority, Chiaramonte tells us. A brat tamer may tell their brat to be home at a certain time and the brat purposely comes back late. To be a brat is to be disobedient. And it’s all part of the fun.

Punishments for bratty little brats.

The ways a Dom can punish their brat are truly expansive. Punishments are negotiated before play takes place and everyone is always on the same page about what is on and off the table.

Some example of punishments:

• Spankings. 

• Orgasm denial.

• Forced silence.

• Getting walked like a puppy.

• Forced orgasm.

• Bondage.

• Tickling.

• Being put in a cage.

How to engage in brat play in a safe way.

Do your research.

We can’t just jump into a role play without knowing what we’re doing. This can be a disaster. "Read articles and speak to others who are brats and submissives in your BDSM community," Philips says. "If you are seeing a kink and BDSM-affirming therapist, they can help you explore BDSM as a part of your sexual identity or an aspect of sexual exploration."

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If you’re looking for a qualified therapist to help you explore this side of yourself, search for a kink-affirming therapist on the COSRT website. Be sure to check out their website and confirm that they are explicit about their work with kink.

Communication and consent.

If you want to have a good brat/Brat Tamer experience, you have to be on the same page as your partner. "Talk about your expectations, boundaries, limits, and what you hope to get out of this dynamic," Chiaramonte says. "When you create this structure, you can play within the ‘lines’ and avoid unnecessary hiccups."

Communication and consent are at the heart of positive BDSM dynamics. Scenes need to be thoroughly discussed so that everyone feels respected and taken care of. This takes a lot of trust.

"Talk to your Dom about your bratty interests first and discuss what the play will look like," Philips says. "For example, will you be consenting to spanking if you misbehave? How hard do you want to be spanked for acting out? Do you want to be spanked over your tamer’s lap?"

Pick a safe word.

A safe word is a non-sexual word used in kink to denote that a boundary has been met. If you’re in a brat/Brat Tamer scene and something has crossed the line, you can invoke the safe word and stop the play. This gives you time to reconnect and figure out how you’d both like to move forward.

"All kink is a marathon, not a sprint."

Go slowly.

This one truly cannot be emphasized enough. "All kink is a marathon, not a sprint," Karsh says. 

If you’re a brat beginner, you have to be willing to take your time and figure out what does and does not work for you. "Think and explore how brattiness will show up in your relationship. Being a brat can often come naturally [to some], so use that energy in exploring this in BDSM play."

Don’t be afraid to get creative. 

Your brat/Brat Tamer dynamic may grow and shift over time. Once you start getting comfortable in your role, you can test new and exciting ways to play with your brat side. "Don’t be afraid to get funky with it — your turn to do the dishes tonight? Have your partner find you drinking a glass of wine on the couch instead," Chiaramonte says. As long as everyone is aware that this is role play, it’s all good.

BDSM is all about exploring different sides of yourself and having fun. If you want to embrace that bratty side of yours, go for it. There is no wrong way to play as long as everyone is having a good time.